You know, it is funny how sometimes I have this overwhelming desire to have what is considered a “normal” life. You know the type. The white picket fence, husband, 2.5 kids. I’m sure that it works for some people and they are quite happy with it but for me, it doesn’t necessarily work.
I’m quirky and introverted. I’ve always been so. I don’t think that is something that I can change about myself and be happy really. It is also the thing about me that most “normal people” don’t get.
Now, I can pass for normal when I need to. I can don the dress, put on the makeup, and carry on a conversation with the best of them. But, where am I truly in my element and happy?
At home, in my pajamas, with my dog and my laptop, writing away at my desk or the kitchen table. That’s the usual spot. Sometimes you’ll find me on the couch watching Netflix with an embroidery project or at the easel with my headphones on. But mostly, it is just doing what I am right now. Tapping away at the keys on my laptop.
I think it is important for everyone to figure out where they thrive. I know that I spent way too much time trying to fit in where I never really belonged in the first place. All for the sake of having that version of normal I mentioned before.
Embracing yourself as you are is important for many reasons. I might be a baker and decorator but I rarely like to do anything that is cookie cutter even if I am aiming for simplicity. I try to think outside the box and do things that will make me happy more often than I just go with the flow these days.
So ask yourself these questions. Answer them honestly because, well, they matter to you.
- What makes you happy?
- What are you good at that you honestly enjoy?
- How much time do you spend of your week or day doing those things?
- What keeps you from doing them more?
I asked myself these same questions when I was just out of school and again recently as my life changed again. The answers evolved over the years. They were very different at the ending of my last attempt to be normal than I thought they would be. What I really learned from them was that I needed to find my bliss and stop reaching for something that I wasn’t sure would make me happy and focus on the things that did.
Your normal is likely different from mine. The truth is, it is up to us, as individuals, to create our own version of normal for us. Going with the usual social norms, is akin to letting society tell you how you should live your life without question. And that, my friends, is vastly overrated. Take what resonates with you from it but add your quirks and your own flair to life. Wear the funky ties or the bright colors. Take your notebook with you wherever you go. Sketch in the park or set up an easel and paint. Dance or play your instrument on a busy corner for the fun of it. Speak up at an open mic night. Or whatever else you feel moved to do.
Whatever you do in your life. Just be you. We are all amazing in our own way. So, just as I sign my novels when I meet people, I say to you; Embrace your journey! Your story is in your own hands to write. So make it a good one!
Posted on August 9, 2017, in Lessons Learned, My Process, The Writer's Life and tagged artist, individuality, life, normal, personality, self realization, writing. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.